After spending five parts on the subject of integrity, I am going to attempt to bring all of the principles together.
In "Part One", I defined integrity as "doing the right thing when no one else is looking." While that may not be a novel concept, and even perhaps one you have heard before by definition; I believe it is the best way to categorize this important word.
If we make an attempt at having peace with the world and ourselves, the idea aforementioned will not be so hard to achieve. Striving to cancel out the vagaries of life and the "darts" that will will surely be thrown at us, will have an impact that is likely to be felt less, allowing us to combat the turn of events that are thrown our way.
For me, being homeless for fifty-four day, and without a regular and sustainable income for thirty-four of them was a strong lesson in humility. I enjoyed my time with other veterans who needed a "hand-up" instead of a "hand-out."
Trips to waterfalls, and going to events such as the Apple Festival was a respite in and of itself. For these times, and along the way making new friends that would never had crossed my path was refreshing and life-changing; to say the least.
Reconnecting with God in an way that is hardly explainable was the most enlightening part of the process, and I was given the awesome opportunity to share that experience with others.
In "Part Two", I mentioned that the word "integrity" is not prominently found, or greatly accessible unless you are looking for it. It is only mentioned sixteen times in the entirety of the King James Version of the Bible. However, David and Saul/Paul, come to mind when considering the credibility and importance of the word. In my day, I attempt to "say what I mean, and mean what I say", with the most appropriate words possible; and removing myself from interactions and discussions that might be troublesome to my ability to uphold this principle and value that I have come to desire to greatly embrace. Fewer words are many times better than expressing your opinions.
By trusting God, and walking in honesty and righteousness, will go a long way toward keeping one in the realm, in a strong way, with respect to integrity. Furthermore, the lasting consequences from breaking the bond of integrity will rather have a positive effect for the years that you are alive, and the legacy that you pass on to generations long after you are gone.
In "Part Three", I talked about my individual transformation. It has felt like the days between August 10 and July 31, 2016, will forever be a turning point. My relationships should be better, my ability to communicate effectively will be enhanced, my ability to make a positive impact on others, daily, were evident during that time; and I would hope be a precursor to continued growth, and my personal relationship with God has expanded and propelled my life to Higher-highs instead of lower-lows."
I like to think that my transformation was similar to Paul's; and if I can make 1/10th of the impact that he made on others during his time on earth, my life would embody a significant meaning to others in my circle of influence.
"Part Four" takes a stand on the embodiment of our positions and attitudes. People are always going to watch us, with a bent toward prejudice. It is a force of nature to want to be "better" than the next man. In reality though, we were made in the likeness of a perfect man. Jesus never once committed sin, yet was asked, and died, for all people. We are all sinners. And while he asked, "My God, My God, why have you forsaken me", he took and completed the responsibility for every man and woman that will ever walk this earth. We need to "all" be cognizant of this fact, Christian or not.
I an attempt to "wrap your head" around this concept; or theory if you are not a Christian, we need to take a proverbial stance in the respect of others and the way we will handle the inevitable adversity that life will certainly be "thrown our way."
Be one-hundred percent committed to your family, friends and to those for which you have a direct impact over. "Stand in the Gap", if you will. What you believe, say and do will radiate and influence others; so an attempt to make these interactions positive, should be something that we all strive for. You will feel better about those opportunities set forth to lift the spirits of others and it will be felt inwardly.
Set goals which are measurable and time specific. Allow room for error, but not defeat. We all strive to achieve something, so let your legacy speak for itself. One who does the right thing, as much as humanly possible, has little to explain. And along the way, examine yourself and your progress. Award those goals which are met, and change course when necessary to stretch yourself in the process toward the eventual attainment. Having a mindset toward success is always a good place to start. Along the way, you must have faith, trust and a strong belief that the projected outcome will come your way; if you put God at the center of your plans. That is not to say that He will not take you in an "entirely" different direction from the planned course, but you can be sure that you will be blessed along the way in the progression and the eventual "end of the line."
In "Part 5", I made the bold statement that our outsides should match our insides. If we start with the intestinal fortitude that lies deep in the recesses of our individual self, that will radiate outward; in our thoughts, actions and feelings. We will not feel an imbalance within ourselves and will instead not feel a conflict between integrity, or the ethical and moral decisions that must be made in our daily lives.
I have found in my life that I listen more, and talk less, as I get older. It is a natural progression for some, and for others, a statement or opinion is always forthcoming. It becomes something that you can just expect from some people.
Paul tells Timothy and us to "persevere." To watch our doctrine closely. Be diligent and give yourself "wholly" to the process, and in the progression in all matters; we will save ourselves and other. Talk about a bold statement?
Obstacles will be forever present, but with your confident and fervent manner to strive toward integrity, the "big" things in life will become small. Timothy was sent by Paul with a definitive purpose; and despite his youth and the challenges he would certainly face; as we all do, having confidence despite challenges, foreseen and unseen, will become minute if we are confident about reaching our goal(s).
Be vigilant in your conduct. Love others. Be pure. Have faith.
God has a purpose for each and every one of us. From building churches, or running a Fortune 500 company, we needn't try to figure it all out at once.
Walking with "Integrity" will go a long way.
Monday, October 24, 2016
Saturday, October 22, 2016
Integrity: Part Cinco
In the model of integrity, our outside should match our inside. Our thoughts, our feelings, our actions.
People will immediately notice if you are even an inkling out of balance in your walk with a mindset toward integrity. An imbalance will make you seem fake, untrustworthy, and even on the inside, you will feel at conflict with your own self. People judge! That is to be expected, as we are all imperfect. We each; whether we realize it or not, have our own prejudices in life.
I make a confident stride to act with integrity each day. I enter the "in door" at stores, clean up after myself in public restrooms, and even at home; I try to do nice things like opening the door for my fiance, and holding the door for others in public places. And at all times, you can bet that people are watching; waiting for a misstep on your/my part. They are saying under their breath and with their thoughts, "On what part of his normal day will Anthony 'drop the ball on' in his daily walk?"
Integrity can sometimes be put in the the same category as ethics and moral. Do we follow the rules at work? Do we stay away from getting our "toes on the chalk" as we go about our day? Again, any compromise will cause others pause.
Paul's counterpart Timothy was given instruction in 1 Timothy 4:15-16.
The Bible says; according to Paul's instruction to Timothy:
"Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. 16Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers."
While this passage points to us as communicators, it is also just as important to "persevere" in our actions; even our body language and facial expressions. People notice much more than we realize. Notice that Paul says two things which are closely related to what I have written above.
The first is to, "watch our life and doctrine closely." Paul suggests to Timothy that we should not only examine ourselves in our words and actions, but also the "way" we go about doing things; and with what purpose. He then goes on to explain how important "perseverance" is. Perseverance has always been something that I have thought about with respect to the goals in my life. Sadly, those goals have been centered around things like money, success and achievement at work, the title at my current job and how quickly I can get to another step or rung on the corporate ladder?
While success makes us feel good about things; important, valued, etc., I think Paul is referring here to a constant state of evangelism. He is saying to Timothy, "Go see the people as I have instructed you. Visit those who have seen and believed; and just as or more importantly, strive to bring new people to Christ!" Timothy was supposed to do this fervently, and with conviction, until the mission was accomplished; the job finished.
One thing of note for me in verse 15 is the following: Paul tells Timothy not only to "give yourself wholly to them, but also; and I think more importantly is to "let others see your progress." As I mentioned earlier, people are always watching.
For most, or at least some women, this is a very important part of distinction between potential suitors. They want a man who is, "strong, confident, decisive, goal-driven; and trustworthy and honest while showing respect for them and others." And these are not the only attributes. The list could certainly continue...
If you go back a few verses prior to 1 Timothy 15-16, you see exactly in what manner Timothy is supposed to instruct. Timothy is young at this point, so one of the challenges that he would have face is delivering his message; with a goal-driven and distinct purpose, to the elders. Paul is confident in Timothy, despite his obstacles or challenges; or he would not have chosen him for this task.
Timothy is instructed to teach the following things to the people of Ephesus (the Ephesians):
Conduct, Love, Faith and Purity.
He was expected to do this with a purpose. He was supposed to build up the church. He was supposed to rid Ephesus of false teachers. He was expected to lead, without compromise or blemish; God's people and to those that would come to God in Ephesus.
People will immediately notice if you are even an inkling out of balance in your walk with a mindset toward integrity. An imbalance will make you seem fake, untrustworthy, and even on the inside, you will feel at conflict with your own self. People judge! That is to be expected, as we are all imperfect. We each; whether we realize it or not, have our own prejudices in life.
I make a confident stride to act with integrity each day. I enter the "in door" at stores, clean up after myself in public restrooms, and even at home; I try to do nice things like opening the door for my fiance, and holding the door for others in public places. And at all times, you can bet that people are watching; waiting for a misstep on your/my part. They are saying under their breath and with their thoughts, "On what part of his normal day will Anthony 'drop the ball on' in his daily walk?"
Integrity can sometimes be put in the the same category as ethics and moral. Do we follow the rules at work? Do we stay away from getting our "toes on the chalk" as we go about our day? Again, any compromise will cause others pause.
Paul's counterpart Timothy was given instruction in 1 Timothy 4:15-16.
The Bible says; according to Paul's instruction to Timothy:
"Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. 16Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers."
While this passage points to us as communicators, it is also just as important to "persevere" in our actions; even our body language and facial expressions. People notice much more than we realize. Notice that Paul says two things which are closely related to what I have written above.
The first is to, "watch our life and doctrine closely." Paul suggests to Timothy that we should not only examine ourselves in our words and actions, but also the "way" we go about doing things; and with what purpose. He then goes on to explain how important "perseverance" is. Perseverance has always been something that I have thought about with respect to the goals in my life. Sadly, those goals have been centered around things like money, success and achievement at work, the title at my current job and how quickly I can get to another step or rung on the corporate ladder?
While success makes us feel good about things; important, valued, etc., I think Paul is referring here to a constant state of evangelism. He is saying to Timothy, "Go see the people as I have instructed you. Visit those who have seen and believed; and just as or more importantly, strive to bring new people to Christ!" Timothy was supposed to do this fervently, and with conviction, until the mission was accomplished; the job finished.
One thing of note for me in verse 15 is the following: Paul tells Timothy not only to "give yourself wholly to them, but also; and I think more importantly is to "let others see your progress." As I mentioned earlier, people are always watching.
For most, or at least some women, this is a very important part of distinction between potential suitors. They want a man who is, "strong, confident, decisive, goal-driven; and trustworthy and honest while showing respect for them and others." And these are not the only attributes. The list could certainly continue...
If you go back a few verses prior to 1 Timothy 15-16, you see exactly in what manner Timothy is supposed to instruct. Timothy is young at this point, so one of the challenges that he would have face is delivering his message; with a goal-driven and distinct purpose, to the elders. Paul is confident in Timothy, despite his obstacles or challenges; or he would not have chosen him for this task.
Timothy is instructed to teach the following things to the people of Ephesus (the Ephesians):
Conduct, Love, Faith and Purity.
He was expected to do this with a purpose. He was supposed to build up the church. He was supposed to rid Ephesus of false teachers. He was expected to lead, without compromise or blemish; God's people and to those that would come to God in Ephesus.
Saturday, October 15, 2016
Integrity Part Quatro
This morning, as I was thinking about integrity, I was examining myself, my thoughts and my actions. As mentioned previously, I have become quite bold in the last sixty days or so. Not only am I happier with my new "boldness", but the air in my walk, talk and attitude resonates, reflects and is infectious to others. People no longer have to ask where I might stand on any issue, as I am not to shy to let anyone know.
It's the little things that make all the difference. Does your trash find the trash can. Are you cognizant of the fact that those around you are watching you to see if you are setting a good example. Do you let others influence you in a way that might effect the way you think and feel. I can tell you with certainty that I stand where I stand, believe in what I speak, say what I mean and walk the line on what I feel is right.
After his transformation from Saul to Paul, an immediate change swept thru Paul's heart, mind, body and soul. He was "on fire for Christ." No one was going to stand in his way. A little more than ten years ago, I went to an event called "Stand in the Gap." A million men lined the long area in Washington, DC, where Dr. Martin Luther King gave his, "I Have a Dream" speech. This event was focused on men that had made a renewed commitment to take a stand for Christianity even in the face of adversity. They would take a stand for their families, their beliefs and the rights afforded to us in this country for Freedom of Religion. Our forefathers founded this country on, "One Nation Under God", and I do not personally understand how that directive placed forth by the signers of the Declaration of Independence has become so misconstrued and simply forgotten.
Why do we no loner say the "Pledge of Allegiance" in school? Who mandated that we should not fly the American flag, or remove monuments that bear the resemblance that institutions can embody the rights that this country was founded on near and in public institutions. The church is a dying institution, and while I can not be certain of the statistics, most people, and especially Christians, would be terribly concerned by the bar-to-church ratio on many street corners, cities, states and the numbers for the entire country. This was not the defined plan or directive that our forefathers had in mind.
When is the last time that you compromised your personal opinions, actions, beliefs or position on an issue that you thought was immovable. How did you feel? What happened to your "intestinal fortitude." I can still hear loud and clear as those previous words in quotations were used often in pre and post-game speeches by my high school football coach. In college, I saw a man, my coach, who was stricken with Lou Gehrig's disease. Probably the best coach in the East Coast Atlantic Conference for Division III football, he always took a stance on what our players individually were supposed to embody, both on and off the field. We were not only encouraged, but made to uphold a standard in the classroom. Our personal actions on campus were closely monitored. It is undoubtedly the people in our lives that have this level of integrity who can demand and deserve respect, absent of the beliefs, actions, opinions and personal decisions in our daily lives.
Going back to Paul, he was active not only in the community where he was at the present time, but additionally sent instructions via letter to those places that he had previously visited, and in the future places where he would express his authority toward building a strong and focused evangelical push for Christ. He was in no way, shape or form going to compromise his position. He was steadfast on a straight and narrow line given to him divinely by God, and he was going to follow that directive to a "T".
We should all strive to be more like Paul. What is it that you are striving to push toward in your daily walk with God? Are you one hundred percent committed to the path that you have set out for yourself and that of your family, community and circle of friend whom you might have influence over? Are you certain that you will not waiver? Will you command respect by other because of what they see in you? How will react in the face of adversity?
All of these, and more questions not listed need to be examined. I encourage you to take a hard look at your own goals. A wise man one said to "place your goals in cement, and your plans in sand." If we would only apply this principle in our daily lives, I believe the difference in the short and long-term would e noticed in an immeasurable way in our lives.
Are you ready to be "bold" and take action? A great slogan from Nike read on many of their wares says, "Just Do It!" Take the time to apply principle earnestly and with a measurable purpose on a measurable time-frame. You will be incredibly impressed and even in awe of the results and outcome.
It's the little things that make all the difference. Does your trash find the trash can. Are you cognizant of the fact that those around you are watching you to see if you are setting a good example. Do you let others influence you in a way that might effect the way you think and feel. I can tell you with certainty that I stand where I stand, believe in what I speak, say what I mean and walk the line on what I feel is right.
After his transformation from Saul to Paul, an immediate change swept thru Paul's heart, mind, body and soul. He was "on fire for Christ." No one was going to stand in his way. A little more than ten years ago, I went to an event called "Stand in the Gap." A million men lined the long area in Washington, DC, where Dr. Martin Luther King gave his, "I Have a Dream" speech. This event was focused on men that had made a renewed commitment to take a stand for Christianity even in the face of adversity. They would take a stand for their families, their beliefs and the rights afforded to us in this country for Freedom of Religion. Our forefathers founded this country on, "One Nation Under God", and I do not personally understand how that directive placed forth by the signers of the Declaration of Independence has become so misconstrued and simply forgotten.
Why do we no loner say the "Pledge of Allegiance" in school? Who mandated that we should not fly the American flag, or remove monuments that bear the resemblance that institutions can embody the rights that this country was founded on near and in public institutions. The church is a dying institution, and while I can not be certain of the statistics, most people, and especially Christians, would be terribly concerned by the bar-to-church ratio on many street corners, cities, states and the numbers for the entire country. This was not the defined plan or directive that our forefathers had in mind.
When is the last time that you compromised your personal opinions, actions, beliefs or position on an issue that you thought was immovable. How did you feel? What happened to your "intestinal fortitude." I can still hear loud and clear as those previous words in quotations were used often in pre and post-game speeches by my high school football coach. In college, I saw a man, my coach, who was stricken with Lou Gehrig's disease. Probably the best coach in the East Coast Atlantic Conference for Division III football, he always took a stance on what our players individually were supposed to embody, both on and off the field. We were not only encouraged, but made to uphold a standard in the classroom. Our personal actions on campus were closely monitored. It is undoubtedly the people in our lives that have this level of integrity who can demand and deserve respect, absent of the beliefs, actions, opinions and personal decisions in our daily lives.
Going back to Paul, he was active not only in the community where he was at the present time, but additionally sent instructions via letter to those places that he had previously visited, and in the future places where he would express his authority toward building a strong and focused evangelical push for Christ. He was in no way, shape or form going to compromise his position. He was steadfast on a straight and narrow line given to him divinely by God, and he was going to follow that directive to a "T".
We should all strive to be more like Paul. What is it that you are striving to push toward in your daily walk with God? Are you one hundred percent committed to the path that you have set out for yourself and that of your family, community and circle of friend whom you might have influence over? Are you certain that you will not waiver? Will you command respect by other because of what they see in you? How will react in the face of adversity?
All of these, and more questions not listed need to be examined. I encourage you to take a hard look at your own goals. A wise man one said to "place your goals in cement, and your plans in sand." If we would only apply this principle in our daily lives, I believe the difference in the short and long-term would e noticed in an immeasurable way in our lives.
Are you ready to be "bold" and take action? A great slogan from Nike read on many of their wares says, "Just Do It!" Take the time to apply principle earnestly and with a measurable purpose on a measurable time-frame. You will be incredibly impressed and even in awe of the results and outcome.
Monday, October 10, 2016
Integrity Part Tres
Quite a bit has happened and changed since August 10, 2016. I am nothing less than a changed man.
Just prior to; however, I was a mousy, pitiful excuse for a step-father. I was trying to keep a family afloat, my fiance happy and her sons even happier. To no avail, I failed, and walked out at the end of July.
A "God-breathed" turn of events would happen on Sunday night, October 2, 2016. Cynthia Michele, whom I had called my fiance for nearly the past two-and-a-half years, re-emerged into my life. Without a doubt in my "noodle"; otherwise known as my brain in "Layman's terms", we were able to rekindle the fire that was once our much-need-of-repair relationship on October 3, 2016. As mentioned previously, a lot had changed.
I had left the Veteran's Restoration Quarters on Friday, July 31, to begin new life in Charlotte, North Carolina. Little did I know, that within a few days, I would have a companion to hold, again, that was once that familiar face that I woke up to every morning, and laid down with, hand-in-hand, each night.In total, we were separated for fifty-four days; of which, we had "NO" communication for thirty-eight. Cynthia wrote me letters, sent me gifts, visited me once, prayed for me daily to return to her; and never once, lost faith that God would ultimately bring us back together; closer in love, on fire for God and stronger than ever in a relationship between man and woman...man and fiance.
I had become a "completely" changed man in fifty-four days, and as I would realize on Monday, October 3, that Cynthia had blossomed and had become a changed woman herself. Absent of our Holy Father, there is no possible explanation for the changes that had taken place in both of our live in that fifty-four day period. Somehow, we had each grown stronger, despite being apart.
It was once mentioned by a friend I will no longer be acquainted with by personal choice, that "I" reminded her of Paul the Apostle. Impossible to live up to; even given the fact that we are both men descended from Abraham, placed on this earth by God, and advised and encouraged to follow in his footsteps and in his ways and finally to minister and evangelize for his purposes; we are surely not "one in the same." In my mind, my name does not even belong in the same sentence of Paul the Apostle? However, understanding and trying to live a life of humility and integrity, this compliment was accepted. After all, I am what is labeled as a "Words of Encouragement" person; in the first position, based on the principles behind "The Five Love Languages", a book written by Christian author, speaker, and devout Christian, Gary Chapman.
Someone who is interested in finding out what their "Love Languages" are can find them here:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/
Just prior to; however, I was a mousy, pitiful excuse for a step-father. I was trying to keep a family afloat, my fiance happy and her sons even happier. To no avail, I failed, and walked out at the end of July.
A "God-breathed" turn of events would happen on Sunday night, October 2, 2016. Cynthia Michele, whom I had called my fiance for nearly the past two-and-a-half years, re-emerged into my life. Without a doubt in my "noodle"; otherwise known as my brain in "Layman's terms", we were able to rekindle the fire that was once our much-need-of-repair relationship on October 3, 2016. As mentioned previously, a lot had changed.
I had left the Veteran's Restoration Quarters on Friday, July 31, to begin new life in Charlotte, North Carolina. Little did I know, that within a few days, I would have a companion to hold, again, that was once that familiar face that I woke up to every morning, and laid down with, hand-in-hand, each night.In total, we were separated for fifty-four days; of which, we had "NO" communication for thirty-eight. Cynthia wrote me letters, sent me gifts, visited me once, prayed for me daily to return to her; and never once, lost faith that God would ultimately bring us back together; closer in love, on fire for God and stronger than ever in a relationship between man and woman...man and fiance.
I had become a "completely" changed man in fifty-four days, and as I would realize on Monday, October 3, that Cynthia had blossomed and had become a changed woman herself. Absent of our Holy Father, there is no possible explanation for the changes that had taken place in both of our live in that fifty-four day period. Somehow, we had each grown stronger, despite being apart.
It was once mentioned by a friend I will no longer be acquainted with by personal choice, that "I" reminded her of Paul the Apostle. Impossible to live up to; even given the fact that we are both men descended from Abraham, placed on this earth by God, and advised and encouraged to follow in his footsteps and in his ways and finally to minister and evangelize for his purposes; we are surely not "one in the same." In my mind, my name does not even belong in the same sentence of Paul the Apostle? However, understanding and trying to live a life of humility and integrity, this compliment was accepted. After all, I am what is labeled as a "Words of Encouragement" person; in the first position, based on the principles behind "The Five Love Languages", a book written by Christian author, speaker, and devout Christian, Gary Chapman.
Someone who is interested in finding out what their "Love Languages" are can find them here:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/
Wednesday, September 7, 2016
Integrity
The more I think about "Integrity", the more fond I become of the word itself. I have heard it defined as "doing the right thing when no one else is looking." To me, that about sums it up in a nutshell.
Today is a peaceful day, as yesterday was undoubtedly the most peaceful day I have had in 2016. Yesterday, myself and two acquaintances; both of which are quickly becoming two of my most loyal friends, set out to do something to get away. You see, myself and my friend, are veterans. He served for seven years in the United States Marine Corps. I served for eight, technically six with an inactive period of two; but my time was all served in the National Guard. A new female acquaintance for me, as of Saturday, joined us.
We set out for a festival in Hendersonville, North Carolina, to get away from the Veterans Restoration Headquarters, (VRQ), in an attempt to clear our minds. The VRQ is housing for the homeless, and Steve and I are currently sharing that experience. We are each battling different demons, and in some respects, the same one.
You see, Hendersonville is home to some of the largest apple orchards in the South. Every fall over the Labor Day holiday, the Apple Festival is held in downtown and hosts what I would guess to be fifteen-thousand people. The storefronts are open, vendors are there, a parade is held at 2:30 PM and that is the beginning of the end. The town continues to buzz until 11:00 PM that night.
We decided to grab a bite after the festivities. The three of us, ironically, all ordered salmon. It is good for brain health; after all. I had made plans for a surprise earlier that day for later that evening. I was going to take my friends to a nearby waterfall in continuation of our day of relaxation. The trees and Goliath-sized rock formations provided a backdrop that seemed to reach the heavens. Heavenly, is the only way I can, or could, describe the atmosphere around the waterfall. And while it was not Victoria Falls, it had the same effect because I was sharing it with new friends; friends I believe I will be able to count among those on my one hand that I can or could trust implicitly. For that, I am truly blessed.
Steve and I are under a curfew, as you have to be in your room at 9:00 PM each night. Once all are accounted for, we can roam around the compound as we wish. The grounds themselves are a renovated Motel 6. The Veterans Administration, or (VA), along with a charitable ministry called the Asheville-Buncombe County Christian Ministries, or (ABCCM), are the benefactors for this program.
It has a singular purpose...to give veterans a second chance at successful and productive lives. Many here are currently, or have been homeless. Some are addicts. Others are alcoholics. Whatever the situation, the VRQ is here as a temporary placement in hopes of better things for veterans. After all, we served our country, and others, by sacrificing ourselves. "Some gave all", as they say about soldiers who fought for our country on foreign lands; never to return. We are blessed to be able to wake up to the sunshine each morning with the promise of another day until nightfall.
Some here have families. Others are estranged. And some are completely alone in this world. In many ways, it sounds sad; but the men here that seek a "hand-up" instead of a "hand-out", will find this place to be a place of respite.
There are opportunities to start or continue an education. Opportunities for spiritual healing. A system that allows men to ride the transit system to and from the VA hospital for appointments, and additionally to outside activities; such as NA, AA, and church. All of these and more options are at the disposal for the nearly two-hundred and fifty men on these grounds.
For those with a limited or extremely focused work history; unable in some form or fashion to perform the duties required to maintain a job and live successfully in the community, there are opportunities on post. Each person in the "program" must perform one thousand service hours. This can be done in housekeeping, the kitchen, the front desk, maintenance, or a few other ancillary areas of need. They are paid through the partnership between ABCCM and the VA. It is non-taxable income. The only stipulation is that you must save sixty-percent of your disposable income. The goal is for each man to leave the VRQ with some sort, or in some cases a significant amount of savings.
Case managers with either social work or psychology degrees are assigned to each individual. They are here in an attempt to be a confidential and dedicated resource. Throughout the week, the men are required to attend two programs or classes. An individual with an "outside" forty-hour per week job is exempt from the two class per week requirement. Those in addictive rehabilitation programs are allowed to count one meeting a week as a substitute for a required class. Other classes include; but are not limited to, Bible studies, conflict management, personal finance, arts and crafts; even comedy. These are all designed for the promotion of personal wellness and growth.
There is also a nurse on staff, chaplains, persons who have been in the "program" longer than most who assist the staff in diverse areas, an intake coordinator and the director. All of these people play an integral part toward bringing people with broken relationships, hearts, bodies and minds back together again.
In my case, I am here because of a broken relationship. That is the current personal diagnosis; and from evaluating my past, the most immediate demon that I am facing. I did not realize how emotionally taxing it had become until I left and retreated here to the VRQ.
Immediately I felt a sense of peace and calm. I believe that each individual has the opportunity, within these protective walls, to grow from the inside-out. The programs are here, clinicians are here, the VA hospital is here, jobs are here and in the community and the structure is here; for those willing to "take the horns" of the proverbial bull. In fact, each one of us bears no cost for housing, water, food, clothing, outside activities, etc. How can one fail?
The clincher in all of this is that each individual must follow a simple set of rules; clearly defined in a short, twenty-seven page handbook, and toe the line with respect to other people and property, and abstaining from drugs and alcohol. Some behaviors are awarded with an immediate dismissal. Others follow the "three-strikes-and-you-are-out" rule, similar to baseball and more and more jurisdictional court systems throughout the United States.
I guess what I am trying to portray, is that this system is designed in and of itself to be foolproof. Still, the scenery changes week-by-week and sometimes day-by-day. I guess some people haven't learned their lesson(s) yet, and perhaps never will. I, on the other hand, believe there is great hope for a new and explosive foundation for financial, educational, personal and spiritual growth. All of these areas are readily addressed by those employed by the VRQ. This partnership was formed nearly twenty years ago under the umbrella of a Christian ministry, partnered with our federal government entity, the VA, as a landing post until each and every individual is fully equipped for another, and hopefully more successful, take-off.
Today is a peaceful day, as yesterday was undoubtedly the most peaceful day I have had in 2016. Yesterday, myself and two acquaintances; both of which are quickly becoming two of my most loyal friends, set out to do something to get away. You see, myself and my friend, are veterans. He served for seven years in the United States Marine Corps. I served for eight, technically six with an inactive period of two; but my time was all served in the National Guard. A new female acquaintance for me, as of Saturday, joined us.
We set out for a festival in Hendersonville, North Carolina, to get away from the Veterans Restoration Headquarters, (VRQ), in an attempt to clear our minds. The VRQ is housing for the homeless, and Steve and I are currently sharing that experience. We are each battling different demons, and in some respects, the same one.
You see, Hendersonville is home to some of the largest apple orchards in the South. Every fall over the Labor Day holiday, the Apple Festival is held in downtown and hosts what I would guess to be fifteen-thousand people. The storefronts are open, vendors are there, a parade is held at 2:30 PM and that is the beginning of the end. The town continues to buzz until 11:00 PM that night.
We decided to grab a bite after the festivities. The three of us, ironically, all ordered salmon. It is good for brain health; after all. I had made plans for a surprise earlier that day for later that evening. I was going to take my friends to a nearby waterfall in continuation of our day of relaxation. The trees and Goliath-sized rock formations provided a backdrop that seemed to reach the heavens. Heavenly, is the only way I can, or could, describe the atmosphere around the waterfall. And while it was not Victoria Falls, it had the same effect because I was sharing it with new friends; friends I believe I will be able to count among those on my one hand that I can or could trust implicitly. For that, I am truly blessed.
Steve and I are under a curfew, as you have to be in your room at 9:00 PM each night. Once all are accounted for, we can roam around the compound as we wish. The grounds themselves are a renovated Motel 6. The Veterans Administration, or (VA), along with a charitable ministry called the Asheville-Buncombe County Christian Ministries, or (ABCCM), are the benefactors for this program.
It has a singular purpose...to give veterans a second chance at successful and productive lives. Many here are currently, or have been homeless. Some are addicts. Others are alcoholics. Whatever the situation, the VRQ is here as a temporary placement in hopes of better things for veterans. After all, we served our country, and others, by sacrificing ourselves. "Some gave all", as they say about soldiers who fought for our country on foreign lands; never to return. We are blessed to be able to wake up to the sunshine each morning with the promise of another day until nightfall.
Some here have families. Others are estranged. And some are completely alone in this world. In many ways, it sounds sad; but the men here that seek a "hand-up" instead of a "hand-out", will find this place to be a place of respite.
There are opportunities to start or continue an education. Opportunities for spiritual healing. A system that allows men to ride the transit system to and from the VA hospital for appointments, and additionally to outside activities; such as NA, AA, and church. All of these and more options are at the disposal for the nearly two-hundred and fifty men on these grounds.
For those with a limited or extremely focused work history; unable in some form or fashion to perform the duties required to maintain a job and live successfully in the community, there are opportunities on post. Each person in the "program" must perform one thousand service hours. This can be done in housekeeping, the kitchen, the front desk, maintenance, or a few other ancillary areas of need. They are paid through the partnership between ABCCM and the VA. It is non-taxable income. The only stipulation is that you must save sixty-percent of your disposable income. The goal is for each man to leave the VRQ with some sort, or in some cases a significant amount of savings.
Case managers with either social work or psychology degrees are assigned to each individual. They are here in an attempt to be a confidential and dedicated resource. Throughout the week, the men are required to attend two programs or classes. An individual with an "outside" forty-hour per week job is exempt from the two class per week requirement. Those in addictive rehabilitation programs are allowed to count one meeting a week as a substitute for a required class. Other classes include; but are not limited to, Bible studies, conflict management, personal finance, arts and crafts; even comedy. These are all designed for the promotion of personal wellness and growth.
There is also a nurse on staff, chaplains, persons who have been in the "program" longer than most who assist the staff in diverse areas, an intake coordinator and the director. All of these people play an integral part toward bringing people with broken relationships, hearts, bodies and minds back together again.
In my case, I am here because of a broken relationship. That is the current personal diagnosis; and from evaluating my past, the most immediate demon that I am facing. I did not realize how emotionally taxing it had become until I left and retreated here to the VRQ.
Immediately I felt a sense of peace and calm. I believe that each individual has the opportunity, within these protective walls, to grow from the inside-out. The programs are here, clinicians are here, the VA hospital is here, jobs are here and in the community and the structure is here; for those willing to "take the horns" of the proverbial bull. In fact, each one of us bears no cost for housing, water, food, clothing, outside activities, etc. How can one fail?
The clincher in all of this is that each individual must follow a simple set of rules; clearly defined in a short, twenty-seven page handbook, and toe the line with respect to other people and property, and abstaining from drugs and alcohol. Some behaviors are awarded with an immediate dismissal. Others follow the "three-strikes-and-you-are-out" rule, similar to baseball and more and more jurisdictional court systems throughout the United States.
I guess what I am trying to portray, is that this system is designed in and of itself to be foolproof. Still, the scenery changes week-by-week and sometimes day-by-day. I guess some people haven't learned their lesson(s) yet, and perhaps never will. I, on the other hand, believe there is great hope for a new and explosive foundation for financial, educational, personal and spiritual growth. All of these areas are readily addressed by those employed by the VRQ. This partnership was formed nearly twenty years ago under the umbrella of a Christian ministry, partnered with our federal government entity, the VA, as a landing post until each and every individual is fully equipped for another, and hopefully more successful, take-off.
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